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The parenting paradox - tips to stay on track with yourself whilst being the best parent you can be!

Your children are not your children.

They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.

They come through you but not from you,

And though they are with you yet they belong not to you. (The Prophet, 1923)


This week's topic has been all about the role we play as parents. My belief is that the best we can do is be the best version of us. From that space, we are giving our children the best that we offer. And in turn that delivers the best version of our children. Simple really - but is it?


As parents, we have so many conflicting priorities and parenting is generally one of our highest values. But where does that put us when we lose ourselves in the process? We are tired, frazzled, unsure of ourselves because we are so busy trying to be the best version of ourselves to everyone else.


This is where you need to put up some boundaries that help you to focus on yourself and then in turn provide space for the family. Here's my top 3 tips that help me.





1. Hold the space for them.

Our children are on a journey and they will make their own mistakes. Their own journey

will not be any smoother than ours, regardless of how much we try to teach them. It will

be circuitous! I have a list of values that I want for my children. Things like great friends,

perfect health, confident, loving, kind. They are tailored to each child and on those days

that your patience wear a little thin, I go back to my list and remind myself that I hold the

space for them. This amazing space that I hold is so reassuring and I take myself there.


2. Balance control and delegation

We want to maintain control of our children whilst helping them grow and hence the

paradox. The best tip I have is to give them tasks that allow them to expand beyond

where they are now and then live with whatever they deliver. For example, make dinner

with veges included may be the task. If those veges are corn, peas and carrots then

that's OK. They'll improve each time but they did deliver on the task. It's not an easy one but so empowering for both the children and the parent!


3 Prioritise - Keep your self-care as a high priority.

Make time every day to look after your own wellness. Even if it's a 5 minute meditation

or a 10 minute walk! Find something in your day to go towards your own wellness.




I practice these tips all the time and they help me to enjoy the parenthood journey.


If you feel that you need support with where you are heading, feel free to message me for a complimentary discussion and see if we are the right fit for each other.


In love and light











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