Updated: Mar 27, 2020
I want to share a question that has played on my mind this week. While in self-isolation (compulsory or not), how do we make this time work for us? How do we beat the fear and the panic that threatens to surround us? How do we use this time to renew and recharge, so we come out the other end with purpose and vigour?
My musings were triggered by a reading I came across recently. In Oprah Winfrey' s last show, she talks about her learnings from her many years on TV.
“Everybody has a calling, and your real job in life is to figure out what that is and get about the business of doing it. Every time we have seen a person on this stage who is a success in their life, they spoke of the job, and they spoke of the juice that they receive from doing what they knew they were meant to be doing."
This has been a fundamental part of my coaching business, helping others to live a life on purpose.
So, when we think about the time that lays ahead, no sport, no external activities to distract us, we will have time to think. Maybe this is your time to find what "juices" you?
So how do you do this?
Here's some simple tips that can help you to make the most of this time and understand who you are and discover your passion and purpose. This can be done as a family, with the kids, with the parents, you are never too late to find your purpose!
To start it off, grab a journal, notebook, artist pad, anything at all that you can write down your musings. Your purpose won't just appear but you can spend 10 minutes a day doing all or any of these activities to begin discovery. How exciting is that?
PASSION - Think of the times when you are so in the moment, nothing else matters. Those moments when suddenly 5 hours has passed, and you smiled the whole way through. Write down your thoughts about this activity. What were you doing, who were you with, what were you feeling, what started it all... all these thoughts help you to understand that origin of joy.
CHILDHOOD - What did you enjoy doing as a child? Craft, paint, study, cook, write, play sport, team sport, solo activities? If you don't remember, maybe have a chat with a family member. What do they remember you doing and enjoying?
BEST PORTRAIT - Ask others about where they see you shine? At work, in school, as a leader, anything at all. What did they think you do well? Where were you happiest? You will be surprised by their answers. I did this every year for my performance review and the answers were inspiring, sometimes surprising and always encouraging. I didn't realise which of my actions had the most impact.
FUTURE SELF - Write about yourself in 30 years time or at your funeral. What do you want to read here? What do you want it to reflect for your life?
VALUES - What values drive you? Knowing your core values helps you to know where you are happiest and why you do what you do. I use the VIA character Strengths free survey that identifies your unique profile of strengths. Knowing this information helps you to be your best self. Try this link here to do your test and I will happily help you understand your report and give you suggestions on how to work with these strengths.
Once you have spent time doing the above activities, take some paper and write or draw down key words or feelings or diagrams. Now step back and see how they interact and link. What are the common threads and themes? Eventually they will integrate because as Charles Eames says "Eventually everything connects" because they have YOU in common.
It will start slowly but keep looking, take notes when things feel right, think through the connections that you make. Talk it out loud with a friend. To learn your purpose may feel elusive but with the right introspection it is yours for the taking.
Mark Twain says, "The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why". I love this quote and it is on my website.
When you know why you are here on this Earth you will be intrigued, fascinated and excited about the future opportunities that await you. And that is how you face the future with love and excitement.
And this is so adaptable for children. Imagine them having the opportunity each day to find out their driving purpose at an early age. Wouldn't this be the start of something exciting?
If you feel like you want help with this, all my sessions are extremely effective online as they are face to face. Or if you think this is something that would interest someone else, please share this post. Send me an email and we can talk.
Sending you all so much love and light.